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How to live a happy life: 10 things to say yes to starting today

How to live a happy life: 10 things to say yes to starting today

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
Marcus Aurelius

“If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.”
Chinese Proverb

Saying “no” is sometimes the easiest way to respond.

You can stay in your comfort zone when you say “no”. You don’t have to fear failing or being rejected.

It is possible to avoid the unknown, which can be frightening and difficult at times.

If you say yes, your life will expand and grow. You can open your life up to more happiness by saying yes.

Today, I want to share with you 10 things I’ve done that made me happier.

Select one that you find most appealing and work to make it a regular part of your day.

1. Being imperfect.

The bar is set too high when you try to be perfect. This will be impossible.

And so you’ll lower your self-esteem. You might not be happy with the way things are going for you.

They may even be doing very well.

Perfectionism is a mindset that can destroy your happiness. By accepting imperfections, you can change your life.

How to:

Don’t buy into the myth of perfection. 

It is easy to fall into a dream of perfection by watching too many films, listening to songs, and taking in everything the world has to say.

You want to eat it because it sounds delicious.

It can be harmful or even lead to the end of relationships, jobs and projects. You can’t expect the impossible.

This simple fact is something I like to constantly remind myself.

Do not settle for less than good enough.

When you strive for perfection, it usually results in projects or other things being completed slowly or even never.

Do not settle for less than good enough.

Don’t use it as an excuse to slack off. Realize that you can stop doing something when it is good enough.

2. Being you.

Not being able to be yourself, always trying to change for others or censoring yourself don’t feel good at all.

Life seems to be so limited and small.

What can you do to be yourself? It is crucial to consider your environment.

How to:

Supportive people.

Spend more time with people who share your values, dreams and beliefs. Or at the very least, neutral.

And spend less time with people who always criticize you or you simply aren’t a good fit for.

Outside of your daily life, you can find supportive and life-enhancing influences.

You can change your surroundings not just around you. Spend more time with information sources that support your dreams, and that can expand and make your life more exciting.

Find people to support you via blogs, music, books, films, blogs and forums.

Spend less time around negative and limiting influences.

3. What makes you alive?

Finding time and energy to pursue the things that make you happy is essential.

How to:

Mix it all up.

Even if you only do something small every week, try something new.

  • If you always eat meat, try the vegetarian option for lunch.
  • Listen to some music that isn’t your normal cup of tea.
  • Go out to a movie, café or pub with friends if you usually stay in at night. Or vice-versa.

To live a happy life, you should constantly change your routine and try to expand your comfort zones.

If you’ve lost interest in something, reconnect with it.

Connect with your old passions. If you loved to paint, go fishing or play guitar and that was what made you feel alive, reconnect.

This week, give it an hour and see if you still get joy from it.

4. Optimism.

Pessimism is a powerful emotion that can limit and even stop your life.

It can make it feel like there’s no point in trying because it won’t make a difference or you’ll just fail. It can make walls and ceilings out of glass, where none really exist.

On the other hand, saying yes to a more positive way of thinking could open up your life.

How to:

Ask yourself questions that are optimistic.

When you’re in what seems like a negative situation then make something better out of it by asking yourself questions that promote optimism and helps you to find solutions.

Questions like:

  • What can you say that is good or positive about the situation?
  • What are the opportunities in this situation?

Start the day right.

The influences in your own life, as mentioned in tip number 2, can have a significant impact.

Choose to spend your morning time with something positive, like a book, blog or even your mother.

You can also talk to someone in the morning who you know will cheer you up, like a school friend or coworker.

5. Positive self-talk can help you overcome negative thoughts.

To live a happy life, it is important to maintain your motivation and self-esteem.

One of the biggest obstacles to success is your inner critic.

This small voice in your head can grow louder if you fail or make mistakes, if someone criticizes or if you get tired.

You can be told that you’re stupid or lazy. It can tell you that you are stupid or lazy. You’re ugly or worse than others.

It is very useful to be able to silence the inner critic or turn it around as soon as you notice it.

How to:

Say Stop

Create a stop phrase or word that you can shout or say in your head whenever your critic utters a thought that is distorted or hurts your self-esteem.

Say: Stop!

Or: No! We are not returning to that place again.

Explain to yourself how this will affect you over the coming year.

Remembering the costs of believing in myths about perfection, as I suggested in tip #1 is a powerful tool to change your thought patterns.

This technique also works well with other negative thoughts that affect self-esteem.

You can do this by reminding yourself how the inner critic shaped your past. In your mind, consider the costs of letting this inner critic run wild for another five or ten years.

6. When you are able to say “no” when it feels right.

You have to be able to say no to certain things in order to have time and energy for the important things.

How to:

What is it that I really want to spend my time and effort on?

You should ask yourself the following question whenever you are presented with an opportunity or receive an offer.

Ask yourself this question when you review your schedule. Consider and consider what your deepest desires and priorities are before you say anything.

Disarm, then explain your need.

You can make it easier for them to accept your refusal if you first disarm them.

For example, you could say that you’re flattered by the offer or that you value it.

You can say that you don’t have time to accept and do what they ask. Say that you don’t feel this offer fits your current life.

7. Forgiveness.

It is essential to be happy in life to not hold on to the past, to the hurts you have experienced but instead to look forward to today and tomorrow.

While it may take some time to forgive, there are certain things that make the process a bit easier.

How to:

Remember that forgiveness is for you.

As long as you don’t forgive someone you are linked to that person. You will keep thinking about the person who has wronged and what they did.

The emotional link between the two of you is so strong and inflicts much suffering in you and – as a result of your inner turmoil – most often in other people around you too.

You also release yourself from all the pain. When you forgive someone, you are also freeing yourself from the pain.

Make it a habit to forgive yourself.

Don’t just forgive others, but yourself too. By forgiving yourself – instead of resenting yourself for something you did a week or 10 years ago – you make the habit of forgiveness more and more of a natural part of you.

Forgiving others is also easier.

8. Making someone happy.

Making someone happy has many advantages. You will be happy when you see the smile on their face and know that you have done something right.

People are more inclined to return the favor when they feel that you have done them a good service.

It spreads to the rest of the world, as this happier person spreads his or her happiness.

How to:

Helping out in practical ways

Help someone move. You can also give someone a lift in your vehicle. If they want information, ask your friends or Google for help.

Just listen.

Sometimes a friend, or someone you know may want to vent. Or just have someone listen to them as they figure things out. This may not seem much, but can be a huge help to someone in need.

So be there fully – don’t sit there thinking about something else – and listen.

9. Openness, growth and growth.

When it comes to happiness, saying yes to opening yourself up to new experiences and learning about yourself is important.

You can also find some useful information in this article. Two more tips will make the journey easier.

How to:

Change only one thing.

It’s tempting to try and change everything at once. We often overestimate our willpower, and the everyday world tends to get in the way.

To improve your chances of success, change one thing at a given time.

Start small.

Just say no to one small thing you don’t want to do this week. You can also forgive someone for one small thing. You can also make someone smile by helping them in a small manner.

Just take a small step out of your comfort zone.

10. You can still live your life in full despite any setbacks.

If you’ve been stuck in a rut or hit a road bump, it is easy to give up. To shrink. To surrender or give in.

Saying yes to your happiness is a much better option in these situations.

How to:

Continue to move forward

When you fail or make a mistake don’t give up. Use the questions in this article to reconnect with your optimism. Inspiration can be found in books, blogs and people around you.

And don’t beat yourself up. Re-orient yourself.

You can still change your life.

I didn’t really try to improve my life very much until I was 25. Many people throughout history and the world have changed their lives much later than 25.

Start today if you wish to change your life. Start with what you already have.

Start small.


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